How do you get over yourself thinking your too good looking than you really are?

The reason why I have this view of myself is because I have heard comments from women whom I have not met before react in a very suprising manner when they saw me.





1. A friends sister who is attractive never was shy to show she liked me and told me this on more than one occasion. Ego level raises





2. I was at a tube station once changing lines, I get off the tube and walk on the platform, a very attractive, but short lady with her other lady friends was walking towards me and she was looking at me and smiling. Her friends walked past me, but she slowed down and kept gazing in my eyes as she walked past she ran to catch up with her friends and she screamed and said ';did you see that guy he was so nice';. Ego raises even higher macho man level, alpha male level. :-(





Then the **** hits the fan:





I was at a bar with my friend, he started talking to two women at the bar, I just arrived and saw him, so I walk over to the bar and the girl he was talking to looks at me and makes a comment, all I hear is ';your cute'; and she points to me, my friend looks round and says ahhh ';that's my friend'; she was like really? ';He is very very cute'; her friend agreed and then both of these women come to me and start chatting to me, so.......that is more of my ego raised....pppffffttt at the expense of my friend being ignored by women he intially started speaking to. I didn't like that and didn't speak to them. I am too considerate and not selfish I didn't like the way they did that. If the women were initially talking to each other and then stopped in order to talk to me I wouldn't have mind. Anyway my ego still is raised when I think about how mad they seemed to go when they saw me.





Now this is where I am not getting my way:





While I have had all these great comments coming my way, I have not had much success with women in general. I have no female friends and have not spoken to women that much in my past. Now being 26 it is hampering the way I talk to women and I can't seem to get them to keep focused on me, the conversations I have with them seem to go stale after 5 mins to the point where the woman gets bored and doesn't want to talk any longer. My looks if I have any become irrelevant, if you know how to speak to women that is the main skill to aquire unfortunately for me I don't have it....maybe because I've not really had many female friends.





Girlfriends:





I had a fling with one lady when at uni, she was a part time model, very beautiful....but I didn't want a relationship with her at the time and told her before we did anything, so she knows what is at stake before proceeding with anything. I found her nice, but I didn't want her as a girlfriend, unfortunately she didn't meet my preferences for girlfriend material. We had a bit of fun, but not the full works so to speak.


We were going to get to that point, but she decided not to in the end as she wanted to be my girlfriend.





A few months back I met another girl who was girlfriend material and we had fun and she called herself my girlfriend, I loved her and still do, but she has some issues I won't go too deep into. I broke up the relationship as she couldn't fully commit to me even though she said she loves me and is crazy for me, it was hard because I love her so much...her position in this country doesn't help either due to her needing a sponsor to keep her in this country, she is from south america. Unfortunately I couldn't act as one for her and this had complicatied things even further. She will remain in my heart forever and there is not a day that goes past that I don't think about her, she will always have a special place in my heart. I LOVE YOU Guisella!





Right now I am going out trying to meet new women, but for some reason I can't attract any that I like and talk to. I don't know maybe the way I speak is putting them off I really don't know, there are a few that I have asked for their numbers or given them mine I txt/ring and they don't answer.....shame they don't want a friend/bf like me, caring and considerate fair enough their loss. I am not one to fold over to a woman I do everything within reason and fair is fair, fair exchange!





What is it that women like for a guy who approaches them to talk about?


How can I keep you (if your a woman reading this) / them (if your a man) interested in the conversation?


What kind of approach do women prefer?





Please let me know thanks.How do you get over yourself thinking your too good looking than you really are?
Wow, that's a long post, lol! Quite a few questions as well - I'll do my best :D





Your original question was how to get over your ego. Well, compliments from women are always nice, but tone them down in your head. If a woman smiles at you, tell yourself she's smiling at what her friend is saying and happens to be looking in your direction. She says you're cute, but she means in a little brother way. She seems interested, but she's just being polite, etc. Basically this is what people with low self-esteem do automatically.





If you're not having much luck meeting women, maybe it's because you come across as arrogant? Unfortunately men who know they're good-looking do have over-inflated egos, and it's very unappealing - athough just from reading your question you don't seem that way. Obviously it's hard to judge without meeting you in person.





Or maybe it's just that you don't get along as well with women as with men, which is trickier to deal with. Men with a sense of humour who don't take themselves too seriously are generally guys who will get women's attention, so work on that. Otherwise, ask more questions than facts about yourself, and be genuinely interested in what she says. Everyone likes talking about themselves, lol, and she'll like you more if you're actually listening to her - because who doesn't? No woman wants to feel like a bore, and definitely no woman wants to feel like all you want is to get into her pants - work on becoming friends first and worry about the sex later.





In the long term, if you're looking for a relationship you're going to need to get over your first love. There's no point looking for her on someone else's lips.





Hope this helps :D